Is This Depression Or Anxiety
Everybody goes through times of fear, worry and sadness . But when those negative emotions are so intense that it feels youre no longer in control of them, we could call it distress.
Distress can include a huge range of negative feelings. Everyones experience is unique and personal to them.
If the main problem is feeling down and miserable, or that there is no interest or pleasure in things, we call it depression. If the main problem is having times of panic, or always being on edge and worrying, we call it anxiety. Its quite common to experience a bit of both.
Whether you call it distress, depression, or anxiety, it doesnt matter. What matters is that you understand whats happening, and know what you can do to feel better.
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Change Or Stop Medications
If the side effects of medication are causing your anxiety crying spells, talk with your doctor and pharmacist about switching to a different medication or stopping altogether.
NEVER stop any medication without talking with your doctor or pharmacist first. Some medications can cause serious problems if discontinued abruptly.
Crying Spells With Anxiety And Stress
Stress is a normal reaction to some of lifes everyday events. Stress makes your body and mind alert to whats going on. However, constant stress can be the sign of an anxiety disorder. Anxiety can prevent you from doing the things you want to do and living life as you desire.
A 2016 study looked at crying tendencies in adults and how it related to their sense of attachment, safety, and connection to others. People with anxiety were more likely to say that crying feels helpful but uncontrollable. If you have anxiety, you might cry often or uncontrollably.
Other signs of anxiety include:
- racing thoughts
- sweaty palms and increased heart rate
- digestion issues
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When To Get Help For Unpredictable Crying
Crying without knowing why doesnt always mean somethings wrong. However, its important to know when to get help for unpredictable crying spells. You might consider seeking treatment if crying for no reason:
- Is frequent and ongoing
- Feels out of your control and is upsetting to you
- Comes along with feeling low or on edge in general
- Occurs with strong mood swings or shifts in mood
- Disrupts your daily life such as affecting your ability to work, causing problems in relationships, etc.
But I Have Felt Like All Of The Above My Entire Life
The symptoms of emotional shock describe what Ive been acting like for years if not my entire life. Is it possible I am living my life in a state psychological shock?!
Some individuals lead their life in a sort of extended shock after traumatic childhood experiences. Or because their childhood was full of difficulties, called adverse childhood experiences, or ACEs, in psychology.
As adults they might be constantly anxious, have sleep problems, feel unable to have close relationships, or even exhibit signs of Adult ADHD, including extreme distraction and an inability to think clearly.
This sort of long-term shock is now starting to be be diagnosed as its own form of PTSD, called complex PTSD, or c-PTSD.
So if you think this is you, do get help.Working with a counsellor or psychotherapist can help you gently and carefully uncover your past trauma, while learning how to lessen its control over your life.
Cognitive behavioural therapy , for example, is particularly recommended for anxiety, depression, and PTSD, and can help trauma. It shows you how to turn your thinking from negative and untrue to realistic and balanced, which then regulates your moods and behaviours.
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Randal received masters degrees in counseling from Trevecca Nazarene University and in psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute. He is a frequent presenter on a variety of topics such as assessment, sexual behavior in children, ethics, dreamwork and trauma. He is a certified practitioner of DreamTending and a qualified clinical supervisor.
Prior to his current role as Chief Community Recovery Officer, Randal served eight years as Assistant Commissioner with the Tennessee Department of Childrens Services. In 2008, he was recognized by the Praed Foundation as a national Systems Champion for implementing a statewide childrens assessment for DCS. He also received the Friend of Children Lifetime Achievement Award in 2010 from Tennessee Voices for Children after seven years on their board. Randal was also recognized in both 2000 and in 2015 as Professional of the Year by the Middle Tennessee chapter of the National Association for Alcoholism and Drug Abuse Counselors .
How To Calm Yourself Down When Angry
Anger is probably the most difficult emotion to overcome because it feels the most justified. Our anger is often a reaction to a violation of our values or boundaries. But anger is really a secondary emotion. It is the default emotion we express when were trying to actualize another, primary feeling like fear or sadness. Learning how to calm yourself down when angry can help you access the underlying emotion and resolve it.
- Vent in a safe place
Find a loved one that is unconnected to the situation and share how you’re feeling. If that’s not possible or you don’t have the time to talk, try writing your feelings out in a journal or an email .
- Validate your feelings
Anger often stems from feeling misunderstood. There’s a saying that people yell when they don’t feel heard. Even if no one else agrees with you, take the time to validate your own feelings and ideas.
Write down: I feel angry because I don’t feel _______.
- Get into their shoes
If someone upset you, try talking the situation out from their point of view. You don’t have to agree with them, but doing this as a thought exercise can help you depersonalize the exchange.
Meditation is a great way to learn to depersonalize your thoughts and separate from the initial angry trigger. Mindfulness allows us to watch the thoughts without attachment and learn what they’re really trying to tell us. You may be able to identify the underlying feeling.
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Why We Need To Make Sure People Understand The Difference
While conducting research for this article, we encountered more than a dozen mental health professionals who mistakenly believed the terms anxiety attack and panic attack were synonymous. They were licensed professionals, but none of them had a specialty in anxiety. Because anxiety attack is not a clinical term, they assumed it was a synonym for panic attack. This caused them to use the terms interchangeably, which can often confuse the issue even more.
People who deal with anxiety attacks or panic attacks often make similar mistakes. Some suffer from panic attacks but use the term anxiety attack to describe their symptoms and vice versa.
This confusion is why potential therapy clients and other anxiety sufferers need to educate themselves more on the topic or work with an anxiety specialist who really understands the differences. If you dont understand the terms and their differences, you might end up treating a panic disorder that you dont actually have. In the worst case scenario, you could even become dependent on a medication you dont need. Thats why its vital to seek out information about your specific condition and work with someone who is knowledgeable about the challenges that your unique condition presents. With luck, this article has been helpful in shedding some light on the differences between these similar terms!
Physiology Of Crying A Self
Why do we cry?
Scientists are not entirely sure why we cry. In an area near your eye is the lacrimal system. One part of the system creates tears. The other part lets the tears free by draining the liquid near the eye.
These tears keep your eyes hydrated when you blink. They also cover your eyes during allergies. But we are most interested in why strong emotions release tears surprisingly, scientists are still not entirely sure.
Some signs indicate that tears are meant to play a role in stress relief. For example, when you cry, your tears release leucine enkephalin, a natural painkiller. Other researchers have looked at whether crying is a self-soothing behavior capable of cooling the body and triggering coping mechanisms.
If you are interested in a long, complex read about the self-soothing nature of crying, this research paper is quite interesting.
So the truth is that we do not entirely know why we cry, but we know that there are many potential signs that crying is simply a great way to cope with significant emotion. And when a person has anxiety, crying may be a much-needed coping response.
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Can I Get Over Anxiety On My Own
Anxiety is a beast, but it is possible to win the battle without medication. Sometimes, overcoming worry and nervousness is simply a matter of modifying your behavior, thoughts, and lifestyle. You can start with a drug-free approach, and then speak with a doctor if your symptoms dont improve or worsen.
Warning Signs You Are Suffering From Emotional Shock
The relationship you thought was forever has just fallen apart. The boss you trusted has unceremoniously fired you from the job you loved. Or perhaps you had a car crash, but you werent hurt so it wasnt a big deal.
You keep trying to rationalise what happened, to tell yourself to just get over it.
.so why is it you cant seem to just snap out of it? Why do you feel so not yourself?
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How Do I Overcome Anxiety Attacks
Breathing exercise for panic attacks breathe in as slowly, deeply and gently as you can, through your nose. breathe out slowly, deeply and gently through your mouth. some people find it helpful to count steadily from one to five on each in-breath and each out-breath. close your eyes and focus on your breathing.
How To Calm Yourself Down When Crying
Many feelings can result in tears. There are happy tears, angry tears, tears of frustration, grief, or embarrassment. Even though its a universal experience, most people dont want to cry in front of others. Berating yourself doesnt make it any better. Here are some self-compassionate ways to manage tears.
- Cry it out
Ever try not to cry? It doesn’t feel great. If you can, let yourself cry. It’s often over much more quickly then it would be if you tried to fight it. Sometimes, you just need to feel whatever the feeling is.
- Wash your face
Yes, it helps cover up the fact that you’ve been crying. However, it feels really good to wash your face with some cool water when you cry.
- Drink something warm
You know that swollen feeling in the throat of trying to choke back tears? Drinking something warm can help you relax. It also helps you to slow down. Nothing inspires mindful breathing more than blowing on a hot beverage.
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Crying During Anxiety Attacks
Its also not uncommon to feel like crying before, during, or after an anxiety attack. Many people feel impending doom, as though they are about to die. They respond by crying because thats a natural response to a feeling of intense dread along with the physiological reaction that occurs during a panic episode.
After an anxiety attack is over, others may still experience the intense emotions, often regarding the helplessness, they felt during the attack. Panic attacks are so intense that, when theyre over, the need to cry is natural and expected. Not everyone cries after anxiety attacks, but the intensity makes it natural to feel like crying.
What Are Tears Made Of
Tears are made up of protein, water, mucus, and oil. However, their content will vary depending on what kind of tears they are. Basal tears, for example, are 98 percent water, where emotional tears contain several different chemicals, proteins, and hormones.
There is no rule about how much crying is too much, and whether it is a problem depends on how an individual feels personally, and whether bouts of crying affect daily activities, relationships, and other aspects of everyday life.
Crying is normal, as are many of the reasons for crying. Some common reasons why a person might cry are:
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One Catch With The *so Tired* Thing You Can’t Actually Sleep
Another legit reason that stress is making you wake up feeling like death: You spent a good chunk of the previous night tossing/turning/wishing your brain would just TURN OFF ALREADY. “I call it ‘wired and tired,'” explains Lucie Hemmen, Ph.D, a psychologist in Santa Cruz, CA. “Practice bumps back homework, which bumps back bedtime and by the time you’re ready to go to sleep, you’ve pushed yourself past the point of exhaustion.” Real talk: That wired feeling may be a sign that sneaky stress hormones are pumping through your body at unhealthy levels, just to help you survive your ridic day. And when you’re experiencing that crap-night-of-sleep cycle on repeat? It’s maybe time to give your schedule some breathing room.
Does Crying Really Release Tension
Deanne finds a big cry now and then helpful when she needs an emotional release.
“It’s something I actually look forward to,” she says.
“Because I can feel tension rise in my body beforehand. For me, crying releases all the negative energy.”
Professor Jennie Hudson says Deanne’s description fits what many people think the physical act of crying does for them that it causes the release of tension.
But the director of the Centre for Emotional Health at Macquarie University suggests it may actually be that we’re just more likely to cry at a point when tension is being released anyway.
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Inability To Cry: The Physical Reasons
Crying makes us feel better, even if our problems persist. But sometimes our biology betrays us and the tears dont come.
Its not that were in short supply. The American Academy of Ophthalmology says that we produce a staggering 15 to 30 gallons of tears every year. Nevertheless, there are a few physical reasons why you may struggle to cry:
- You have a medical condition that affects tear production, such as dry eye syndrome or Sjögrens syndrome
- Youre taking certain medications, such as antidepressants or hormonal birth control.
- Youve recently undergone laser eye surgery.
- You live in a dry and windy climate.
- We also produce fewer tears as we age.